Navigating the Complexities of Writer Relationships
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Chapter 1: Understanding Emotional Responses
In the world of writing, it’s easy to feel overlooked. I often find myself feeling emotionally affected not by any direct actions of others, but by their apparent indifference.
This sentiment resonates deeply for many writers who invest time in engaging with their peers' works, only to realize that the reciprocation may not be as profound.
Section 1.1: The Reality of Online Connections
I’m referring specifically to fellow writers on Medium, individuals whose work I hold in high regard. I actively engage with their stories through comments and feedback, yet I sometimes feel invisible when it comes to their acknowledgment of my own writings.
Subsection 1.1.1: The Surprise of Disconnection
After months of exchanging thoughts and establishing a rapport in the comments section, I often discover that they might not truly be following my work. This realization hits hard, especially when I share personal experiences in my writing that seem to go unnoticed.
Section 1.2: The Importance of Mutual Engagement
This isn't merely a matter of "Read-for-Read." It's about my genuine appreciation for their craft, and I had assumed they valued my insights too. It can feel deeply unsettling to explain personal tragedies, like the loss of my wife fifteen months ago, only to find out that a writer, whom I thought was a friend, is unaware of this significant aspect of my life.
Chapter 2: The Dilemma of Expectations
The first video, "You Hurt My Feelings | Official Trailer HD | A24," delves into the emotional complexities surrounding relationships and feelings of being overlooked.
The second video, "Tate McRae - hurt my feelings," captures the essence of emotional vulnerability and connection, mirroring the sentiments expressed in my writing experiences.
Despite these feelings of disappointment, my admiration for their work remains intact. I don't wish to impose my expectations on them; after all, they lead busy lives and may feel stretched thin. I simply wish that they were more aware of my contributions.
It's fundamentally about self-respect. I long for a connection akin to that of literary greats like C.S. Lewis and J.R.R. Tolkien, where mutual respect and acknowledgment are the norm. However, it often feels more like a fan's admiration for a superhero.
I want to clarify: this reflection isn't directed at my true friends who actively support me. I'm merely expressing frustration about a couple of talented writers who seem oblivious to my input on the platform. It's disheartening, but I appreciate you for listening as I navigate these complex feelings.