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The Fear of Death
An exploration of the ultimate emotion reveals its foundational role in human experience.
According to Gregory Zilborg, “Beneath the sense of insecurity when faced with danger, behind feelings of discouragement and melancholy, lies a fundamental fear of death. This fear, intricate in nature, appears in various indirect forms.” This notion resonates with the thoughts of philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer, who suggested that "Death serves as the genuine muse for philosophy." This intriguing perspective stems from our ignorance of origins and destinations beyond this earthly existence.
The fear of death is not a mere philosophical musing; it is a recurring theme in natural sciences as well. Darwinian theory frames it as an evolutionary trait, honed over eons to ensure the survival of species through the continuity of genetic information.
Modern psychology aligns closely with this Darwinian viewpoint. Gregory Zilborg, who studied Ernest Hemingway in the early 20th century, posited that the fear of death serves as a conduit for self-preservation instincts, driving us to protect our lives against existential threats:
> “The ongoing expenditure of psychological energy to sustain life would be unfeasible if the fear of death wasn’t a constant. The term ‘self-preservation’ suggests an effort against a disintegrating force; this emotional dimension is indeed the fear of death.” — Gregory Zilborg, Fear of Death.
His assertion implies that the dynamics of life are significantly influenced by this fear. The word significant is used here because, while other factors are involved, constant awareness of mortality would hinder our ability to engage in basic conversations.
This paradox is notable. Humans uniquely grasp their eventual disappearance. Zilborg elaborates:
> “If this fear of death were a constant presence, normal functioning would be impossible. It must be effectively repressed to allow for a degree of comfort. Repression involves more than simply setting aside thoughts; it entails a continuous psychological effort to keep such thoughts at bay.” — Gregory Zilborg, Fear of Death.
Thus, the fear of death, an evolutionary constant, lurks in our psyche while remaining pushed to the subconscious background. Zilborg adds:
> “In everyday life, we move about as if we are unaware of our mortality, behaving as if we were immortal. Individuals may acknowledge that they will die eventually, yet this acknowledgment is often superficial. They engage fully in life, relegating thoughts of death to mere intellectual admission, where the emotional weight of fear remains suppressed.”
The Fear of Death and Anxiety
Pulitzer Prize-winning author Ernest Becker, in his acclaimed work The Denial of Death, aligns with Darwinian logic, emphasizing its importance while also acknowledging the complexity of this discussion.
Our ancestors faced a harsher reality than most modern individuals can comprehend. With no medical advancements or scientific understanding, they were vulnerable to predation and disease, navigating a perilous existence. The innate fear of death evolved as a crucial instinct for assessing the dangers of the world.
Given this deeply rooted programming, our best approach may be to accept it and address the resultant anxiety. The fear of death often manifests as anxiety. Recent generations are frequently labeled as the most anxious, yet this perception overlooks the historical burdens faced by humanity; anxiety is a fundamental aspect of the human experience.
Modern humans may not contend with saber-toothed tigers, but we grapple with our egos and personas, liberated from primal survival concerns. This shift allows us more time to ruminate on existential dilemmas, such as identity and societal expectations.
We often create distractions to avoid confronting our latent fears. It is easier to focus on financial woes than on mortality. Becker encapsulates this notion:
> “Those early humans who harbored the greatest fears were the most attuned to their natural reality, passing on a survival-oriented realism. This resulted in the emergence of hyper-anxious humans who generate anxieties even in the absence of threats.” — Ernest Becker, The Denial of Death.
Thus, we see Homo sapiens as anxious beings, acutely aware of death yet often denying its significance.
How We Deny Death
There is no absolute right or wrong in this context—only perspectives. Zilborg acknowledges that a constant awareness of death would impede cognitive functioning. So, how can such a profound instinct, this potent emotion, become ingrained in our DNA while remaining repressed?
The answer is multifaceted: practically everything.
We construct identities based on our preferences, emotions, personal narratives, and experiences. These layers serve to divert attention from the underlying reason for our persistent anxiety.
Religion has historically provided explanations to alleviate this anxiety—myths of paradise, deities, and moral frameworks give meaning to life and death. Yet, modernity, science, and psychology have begun to unravel these comforting beliefs.
To grasp the human psyche, one must strip away these protective layers, confronting reality's harshness. This metaphor of exposure helps us understand our authentic selves.
Philosopher Søren Kierkegaard illustrated this concept, describing individuals who outwardly appear competent yet avoid deeper truths:
> “Outwardly, he embodies ‘a real man’—a family man, a competent civil servant, and a Christian of sorts. However, he shies away from discussions on faith, fearing they may lead him too far.” — Søren Kierkegaard, as referenced by Ernest Becker.
This avoidance illustrates a reluctance to confront the core issue.
The challenge lies in recognizing that we often identify with our protective layers, thinking of them as integral to our identities. To truly understand oneself, one must undergo a figurative death.
When we confront this reality, we may transform our anxieties into neuroses, which manifest as defensive behaviors. Zilborg notes:
> “Anxiety neuroses, phobias, and many depressive states highlight the persistent fear of death interwoven with significant psychological conflicts.” — Gregory Zilborg, Fear of Death.
Embarking on the journey of self-discovery means dismantling these layers. To know oneself authentically, the persona that one believes they are must undergo a form of death.
Not Repeated Enough: Know Thyself
To truly understand oneself is akin to a spiritual death. Becker elaborates:
> “This is why sages throughout history have insisted that to perceive reality, one must die and be reborn. The themes of death and rebirth resonate across various philosophical traditions, yet it is only through scientific psychology that we can grasp the implications of this cycle.” — Ernest Becker, The Denial of Death.
Becker further explores the complexities of self-identity and neuroses, asserting:
> “Perls viewed the neurotic structure as a layered edifice, starting with superficial layers that facilitate social interactions. The deeper layers, however, reveal feelings of emptiness and the fundamental fear of death. Only by penetrating this layer can one access their true, unguarded self.”
To undertake this inner exploration is often painful. Artists, philosophers, and writers who achieve enduring legacies often traverse the spectrum of human experience, confronting both madness and enlightenment.
Recognizing one's authentic self allows for genuine expression, and archetypes emerge: heroes, sages, and saints who triumph over their fears to uncover their inner divinity.
A Selfish Last Word
As I write this, I find myself feeling less anxious, immersed in the act of creation. You, dear reader, may also feel a sense of detachment from anxiety while engaging with this text. This dynamic affirms the observations of Zilborg and Kierkegaard.
This shared experience serves as a distraction from confronting our true selves. Language, while a powerful tool, can obfuscate our authentic identities.
The topic of death has long intrigued me, and I acknowledge that I am far from fully understanding myself. Memories, preferences, and life experiences shape my being.
Thus, I pose a question to you: Is it worth the risk to approach the brink of madness to uncover your authentic self? If so, how can one demonstrate their true self without succumbing to paradox or nihilism?
Humanity continues its journey from the shadows of ignorance. Who knows when we will finally emerge into the light? Nevertheless, let us strive to follow the path laid by our ancestors.
P.S.: I will revisit this subject in the future.
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