# Embracing Maturity: How to Stop Acting Like a Child
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Chapter 1: The Child Within
It's easy to love children—until they grow up and retain their childish behaviors. Some adults resemble oversized toddlers, burdened by lifelong frustrations and expressing their unmet desires through entitled outbursts. This behavior can alienate those around them.
I must confess, I have a certain bias against those who display juvenile tendencies well into adulthood. Growing up with two narcissistic parents who vied for the title of "most dramatic" left its mark on me. Their toxic behaviors occasionally seep into my life, tempting me to indulge in my own moments of childish frustration.
We all experience the urge to throw a fit now and then. However, emotional maturity prompts us to recognize these impulses and manage them before they sabotage our relationships.
As an example, I recently found myself upset because my usual lunch companions were enjoying a meal at another table, seemingly without me. Despite having ample space to join them, I chose to sulk instead, consuming a donut and pretending to be cheerful while I internally pouted. It was a ridiculous display, one that ultimately only affected me, as my coworkers remained blissfully unaware.
This realization led me to write this article, hoping that these reflections might also resonate with others. As someone wisely noted, the advice we offer others often serves as guidance for ourselves.
Chapter 2: The Reality of Desires
It's important to acknowledge that we cannot always have what we want. This entitlement is often characteristic of bratty behavior, where desires must be fulfilled immediately, regardless of the circumstances.
In adulthood, this attitude manifests as a rather unfortunate spectacle. We continuously crave various things, and our desires frequently clash with those of others. If we were to get everything we wanted, the world would be a very different place.
For instance, my childhood friend Roxanne would have married her unfaithful high school sweetheart, who had a reputation for being quite the charmer. The point is: our desires cannot be fulfilled in isolation; we depend on others to help us achieve them, and those others will soon tire of our demands.
Section 2.1: The Myth of Entitlement
It's crucial to understand that nobody owes us anything. Life is unpredictable; circumstances change, and we face challenges that can strip us of our possessions and security.
In relationships, it is essential to recognize that domestic responsibilities are not inherently assigned based on gender. It’s not a wife’s job to handle the dishes, nor a husband’s to take out the trash. These tasks should be mutually agreed upon.
Recently, I encountered a man who claimed he wouldn’t want a wife unless she did the dishes. This sentiment reflects a troubling perspective that reduces women to mere domestic roles.
Section 2.2: The Importance of Self-Sufficiency
The contemporary notion that men should pay for women’s expenses is perplexing and showcases a troubling sense of entitlement. It’s vital to recognize that while historical contexts might explain this mindset, it does not justify expecting support without personal effort.
Everyone should strive for self-sufficiency. Depending on others to handle your responsibilities or finances is unrealistic. The expectation that someone else should manage your chores while you engage in leisurely pursuits is simply absurd.
Chapter 3: True Leadership and Respect
A king is defined by his capacity for diplomacy, kindness, and respect—not by rude or demanding behavior. I’ve observed a colleague who embodies this ideal. While he occasionally experiences moments of vulnerability, he generally maintains a respectful demeanor, treating everyone with consideration.
His ability to apologize when he inadvertently offends someone serves as a powerful example of how we can earn respect. If we aspire to hold positions of authority or leadership, we must conduct ourselves in a manner befitting that role.
In conclusion, embracing maturity and understanding that we are not entitled to everything we desire can lead to healthier relationships and personal growth.
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